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Five Little Behaviour Problems In Children Parents Should Not Ignore

Parenting is such an overwhelming duty. As a result, parents are tempted to overlook petty behaviour problems in children which often lead to bigger behavioural conflicts. Here are 5 toddler misbehaviours you should never ignore.

Problem # 1: Using Tantrums As A Means of Emotional Expression

Think your toddler’s snippy tone, screaming, whining and crying are okay because it is his way of communicating his emotions? Think again. Most often, parents dismiss this kind of behaviour because they think it is just a fleeting phase. However, if you do not confront it as early as now, you may find yourself dealing with an ill-mannered 3-year old who has a hard time getting along with other children.


Give your toddler a head’s up each time he displays a rude behaviour. Tell him, for example, “When you scream at me, it seems as if you do not respect me.”. But, if this trick does not work, ignore your toddler whenever he throws a fit. Once your child realizes he will not get a reaction from you, he will stop. You can also try distracting your toddler by giving him crayons and papers to help him release his emotions in a more positive way. If all else fails, implement the time-out method. Leave your toddler alone in a safe area for a few minutes. When the time is up, go to him and then talk about what he did wrong and ask him what he should do next time.

Problem # 2: Interrupting Conversations

Toddlers love to talk, even when their parents are on the phone or talking to someone. Though this misbehaviour is unintentional, if you tolerate it, your toddler will become insensitive of other’s privacy.


Inform your toddler that you will talk or visit someone so he knows he should not interrupt you. Then give him a quiet activity such as coloring a book or assembling a jigsaw puzzle to keep him entertained. You can also use hand signals such as holding up one finger or pointing to a chair to let him know that you will listen to him once you are done talking.

Problem # 3: Being Too Aggressive

It is never correct when your toddler hits, slaps, kicks or punches anyone. Rough behaviour is a difficult issue to resolve so it is best to stop the misbehaviour as early as possible.


Grab your toddler aside, look him in the eye and tell him (in a firm and clear manner) that punching his playmate is not correct. Follow it up with a question like, “How would you feel if he did that to you?”. Consistently remind him to be gentle. Help him practice friendly behaviour by role playing at home.

Problem # 4: Pretending Not To Hear You

Telling your toddler what to do over and over again before he does it sends the message that it is okay to ignore you. Remember, toddlers often do this because they want to test their parents. So if you tolerate it, the more your child will be defiant.


Avoid talking to your toddler from across the room. Walk over and tell him what he has to do. If he is in front of the TV, switch it off so his attention is on you. If he does not follow, give a consequence.

Problem # 5: Being A Picky Eater

Food battles are common between toddlers and parents. However, being a picky eater is not a good trait to have especially when your child reaches puberty.


Compromise. Tell your toddler that he can only have a cookie after he eats some of his vegetables. Or, make a deal that if he eats his veggies during dinner for 5 days, he can plan the family menu for Saturday. Furthermore, do not force him to clear his plate. It is better for him to eat a few servings of broccoli than not eat them at all.

It is very hard to change a bad behaviour. Hence, you have to deal with your toddler’s misbehaviours immediately so you can save you and your toddler from future trouble.

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Solving Behaviour Problems In Children

Aggressive behaviour is part of your toddler’s development. While this is normal and short-lived, it is important that you let your toddler know this behaviour is undesirable. Here are some tips on how to deal with behaviour problems in children.

Discipline Consistently

Children thrive when there is consistency. As much as possible, point out your toddler’s wrong doings and respond the way you usually do. Your predictable reactions produce a pattern your toddler will recognize and come to expect. Do not discipline your little one differently in public, no matter how embarrassed you may be with his behaviour. Use your usual discipline style. If he bites his sibling while you are out grocery shopping, just say “Okay, you bit your sister again. You know biting is not good, it hurts people. You do not want to hurt others, don’t you?”.


Your toddler does not know what you know, so explain why throwing things and screaming is not good, why you are mad, how it affects people and why you need to reprimand him. Introduce a new behaviour. If he is angry because his playmate pushed him, teach your little one a more effective way to express that anger through words. For example, he can say “You are making me mad.” or “Stop pushing me, you are hurting me.”.

Use Consequences

Your toddler can understand the concept of cause and effect so the next time your toddler fights with another tot, remove him so he cannot play. If he throws his favorite stuffed toy in the midst of his outburst, let him see the broken toy and do not buy him a new one. This way, he will realize that throwing a fit only produces negative outcomes.

Give A Time-out

If your toddler becomes too unruly, use the time-out method. When the unacceptable behaviour occurs, tell him that he is not being good and warn him that you will put him in time-out if he will not stop. If he continues to misbehave, take him to his time-out area and leave him there for five minutes (but stay within earshot). This quiet moment gives your toddler a chance to cool down and think about his actions.

Talk It Out

When the time-out is over, talk to your toddler. Ask your toddler what he did wrong and why you gave him a time-out. Allow him to talk and explain why he behaved that way and listen to him. This way, he will not feel he is a very bad person. Follow it up by saying he will go to time-out again if he continues such behaviour.

Ignore It

Oftentimes, toddlers push the limits of their parents because they want attention. The next time your toddler misbehaves, ignore him. Eventually, he will realize that you will not give in to his demands and sooner or later, he will stop behaving badly.

Reward Good Behaviour

Each time your toddler does something good, praise him. Do not just focus on his bad behaviour. Give him a kiss, hug, high five or a pat on the back. Tell him he did a great job for not screaming at others. Reward your toddler by cooking his favorite food, buying him a toy or letting him play outside longer. The positive attention will make your toddler more eager to behave well.

Correct your toddler’s misbehaviours as soon as you notice them. All it takes is a little time, effort and patience to keep your child from spinning out of control.

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